Sexism against women is a universally accepted fact and both men and women are in a fight against this together. But sexism and unfair treatments towards men is real too and with time it is only becoming uglier, and unlike the former, nobody cares to talk about it much. The Jasleen Kaur – Saravjeet Singh case of 2015 is an uncomfortable reminder of how men are treated unfairly sometimes and how much damage a woman can do to a man’s life.
In this particular case, Jasleen Kaur uploaded a picture of a person on a Royal Enfield on her Facebook timeline with a long description in which she mentioned that he was passing obscene comments to her. People and news channels quickly jumped to the conclusion and tagged him as a ‘pervert’. Times Now went to the extent of asking its viewers to join it in ‘publically shaming’ him without even knowing the other side of the story.
Long story short, she was later found to be lying and was just pulling a publicity stint at the cost of a person’s life and dignity. Here are 3 more cases in the recent years that prove how unfairly men are treated in India.
1. The Rohtak sisters
On November 28, 2014, two sisters- Pooja and Aarti, who were students of BCA in IC Women’s Government College, Haryana, boarded on a bus to reach their home near Rohtak when two men, named Kuldeep and Mohit, allegedly harassed them in front of all the passengers in the bus. The sisters but didn’t let their molesters go easily and beat them up with belt and brick while the people in the bus just watched and some made videos with their phones. A third man named Deepak also seemed to have entangled himself in this. Soon, the video of the ‘brave’ girls thrashing up the sexual predators overtook social media and mainstream media and everyone hailed the girls as ‘heroes’. Even national news channels invited the sisters in their prime time shows.
The three men were arrested after three days and Haryana Chief Minister Manohar Lal Khattar went to the extent of deciding to award the sisters Rs. 31,000 each for their bravery on 2015’s Republic Day. But soon things started to fall apart for the sisters as more videos of the girls beating up people in the name of harassment surfaced online and it started to become clear that something was not right and when people present that day inside the bus decided to come out in support of the boys, who were actually students too and were returning after giving an army recruitment exam, the sisters were caught red-handed, though by then, they managed to dissolve the hopes of the boys to join the Indian Army as they were not allowed for the written examination even after clearing the physical tests.
According to the accounts of the other passengers, the boys and the girls got involved in a brawl when the boys asked the girls to vacate a seat which belonged to a sick old woman and the girls refused. There was never any harassment. Despite of everything, it took them almost three years to get fully acquitted, and the news channels that left no stone unturned to show the girls as heroes quietly let the news of the boys innocence pass.
2. The Dimapur mob lynching
On March 4, 2015, there was a mass rally of students in the quiet city of Dimapur, Nagaland against the alleged rape of one 20 years old college student belonging to a Naga tribe by a person named Farid Khan. By the time the rally took place, the accused was already arrested, but people were not satisfied. It may be mentioned here that the fact that the alleged victim was a woman did have a big role to play, nevertheless, it wasn’t the only factor that was contributing to the raising unrest. Farid Khan was portrayed as an illegal Bangladeshi immigrant (which he was not) and an outsider who dared to touch a Naga girl.
On March 5, a group of about 8,000 people gathered outside the Central Jail where the accused was kept, broke into the jail and dragged him out. He was stripped naked and beaten and made to walk seven kilometers this way while people kept thrashing him gruesomely. They beat him so much that he died on the way. His body was but still dragged to the center of the city where there is a clock tower and hung him from it. Justice was done, but on a closer look, the justice seemed hugely flawed.
To begin with, Khan wasn’t an illegal immigrant. Two of his brothers are serving the Indian Army and one died during the Kargil War. The alleged victim had revealed that she was paid a hush money of Rs. 5,000 while the family of Khan claimed that she had filed the rape charges against him because he refused to pay Rs. 2,00,000 for the consensual sex.
The CCTV footage of the hotel where the rape had allegedly taken place revealed that Khan and the girl had entered and left the hotel together without much commotion which contradicted the general perception.
3. The traffic police who attacked a woman with brick
The social media, news channels and print media on March 11, 2015 had but one big news that they ran the whole day and for days to come, demonizing a traffic police in Delhi who had hurled a brick at a woman on her scooter. Ramanjeet Kaur was with her three daughters of which one was an infant.
The incident was recorded in a video and shared through social media first which garnered a widespread support in favour of the woman who had alleged that she was asked for a bribe of Rs. 200 by Sathish Chandra, the traffic police in question, for jumping the red-light and when she refused and instead asked for a receipt, she was attacked by the cop with a brick. In the aftermath, the traffic police was dismissed from the service and was charged under different sections of IPC. Delhi Chief Minister Arvind Kejriwal also met Kaur and lauded her courage while at the same time assuring her that her injuries sustained from the attack will be taken good care of.
While the whole incident was made to appear like a woman fighting against corruption in a corruption maniac country, the truth was however that she was in the first place risking the lives of her daughters by taking them all in one single two-wheeler. Further, when she jumped the red-light, she was asked to stop by the police, but she instead tried to run away. To counter her motives, he chased after her and tried to seize the key, which imbalanced the scooty and all of them fell from the vehicle.
In an audio that surfaced later, it was revealed that Sathish didn’t actually ask for bribe but a fine which she refused and started to abuse him in the first place calling him a ‘loser’ and it was also her in the first place who had thrown a brick at him. Sathish, in a fit of anger retaliated in the similar manner, which was nevertheless wrong. But by the time the truth had dawned, damage was done. Sathish was already declared a demon and she was a saviour in the face of corruption, and society taking the side of the women without a second thought had ruined him.
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