Indian girls are complex creatures and you need to understand their heart and soul very clearly if you want to take it further. Unlike the saying, it is not very difficult to figure out what a woman wants if you keep some basic facts in mind. No, don’t misjudge this as a ‘6 din, ladki in’ guide. This is more reasonable and effective than that, because it comes straight from the horse’s mouth.
She could be a modern, independent, working woman who doesn’t really believe in old traditions and values, but deep down, her heart beats for all things desi. Don’t take it too fast or you will get unexpected speed-breakers which will hamper what could have been the ultimate relationship.
Talk as much as possible about things which matter to you, or to her. Conversations keep the spark in a relationship alive. Involve her in talks concerning your family and friends and she’ll know you’re not just another frog that she has to kiss before meeting her Prince Charming
Be concerned about her work/family matters if she involves you and talks to you about them. Family means a lot to an Indian girl. If she is sharing those details with you, shower her with support and tell her she has a shoulder to lean on in case she needs it. There is nothing better than knowing that someone will be there to talk it out, at the end of a not-so-good day.
Don’t flaunt things because it generally pisses girls off. Modesty is the key to accommodating another person in your life. If you aren’t modest, there actually is no space for anyone else since you’re already so full of yourself.
Whether it is a ‘No’ to a date, to a task, to meet somebody, to a physical relationship, to a hug – whatever the case may be. Respect her choices. If she says ‘No’, it’s a ‘No’. Indian girls aren’t exactly the way they’re depicted in movies – the ones who say ‘No’ but mean ‘Yes’. We’ve moved on from that syndrome and we pretty much mean a ‘No’ when we say ‘No’. Respect her choices and she’ll respect you for that.
With an Indian girl, it is not really easy to demarcate though. But if you know her enough, this shouldn’t be a problem. Don’t go over the top because if she’s one of the traditional kinds, you will soon wish you hadn’t crossed the line.
You might succeed in impressing her, but it won’t take you any further. Later, when she comes to know the real you, she will realize that she fell for someone who you’re not. Given the skewed sex ratio, she really has much more options than you – so play it right the first time.
Being an Indian girl, she probably already has a protective father or brother at home. You don’t want to be another one of what she already has. Give her the space to be herself and don’t judge her by what she wears and what she drinks. Allowing her to be herself is the best thing you could do, to make her feel loved.
Yes! She wants that pricey engagement ring or wedding dress, but the more you stay with her, the more you strengthen the nascent string of faith that connects you guys.