Relatives-neither can you live with them nor without them especially when it comes to the great Indian Society. Or can you actually? Pesky, interfering and patronizing are some of the innate qualities found in some, or perhaps most, of the individuals belonging to the species you know as Indian ‘rishteydars’. Why, where or how are some of their favorite words to begin sentences with. So let’s find out some of the most nauseating and irritating questions asked by the notorious Indian ‘rishteydars’!
10. How was your result?
Who doesn’t get nervous about results? The nerve wrecking times spent in anticipation of Board Results are perhaps the trickiest of all. It is during such periods of anxiety that relatives swoop in. And if you unfortunately end up faring badly, these very folks make it a point to drag you through the painful experience of describing your result by asking about it over and over again.
9. Have you gained weight?
Who likes to be called fat? Nobody and an insult disguised in the form of a question to assert the same is probably the worst ever! Yes, relatives do that over and over again. Some perhaps out of genuine concern but mostly to enjoy the discomfort on your face at being indirectly called fat! So next time you are asked if you’ve gained weight be ready with a witty rebuttal!
8. Did you land a job?
Sometimes it gets hard to differentiate between a relative and an adversary! Such is their level of inquisitiveness; blatant infact, that it makes their presence upsetting rather than comforting. If you don’t have a job or are in search of one; relatives get busy interrogating you about your job status day in and day out. If anything it seems as if your salary would be theirs to keep!
7. Why can’t you be like your friend?
If you thought someone asking about your result was annoying, then think again! There are certain breeds of relatives who go to the extent of comparing you with a friend or acquaintance. And God forbid if the latter turns out to have fared better in exams or in life in general, your entire existence infront of them diminishes. You would then forever be subjected to gauche comparisons with your successful (in your relatives’ eyes!) friend.
6. Can you lend me some money?
Money and relationships should never be mixed. Money matters lead to relationships ending on bitter notes. The best policy is neither to lend nor borrow; particularly to relatives. The fact remains that loaning money to a relative is as good as bidding adieu to it forever. Saying ‘no’ too isn’t easy. That’s precisely where the annoying relatives step in and make it a point to ask about borrowing money from you. It is a question that more often than not you would rather not hear!
5. How much do you earn?
For some peculiar reason, Indians find it polite and acceptable enough to pry on the salaries of their near and dear ones. The nosy and exasperating relatives leave no stone unturned to push you into an uncomfortable situation. And that’s not all they even expect a figure from you at the end of their question. But it obviously does not end there as a snide remark usually follows the answer!
4. Do you have a boyfriend/girlfriend?
In Indian households there is an unwritten rule which describes the ‘right’ marriageable age for men and women. More often than not, parents make it a point to get their children married prior to crossing that socially sanctioned age. But sometimes time elapses and people are found to be still single. It is at those moments that the ‘concerned’ relatives weave theories and in doing so they harp on the irritating questions about boyfriends or girlfriends continuously!
3. Why don’t you wear sarees?
If you are a woman, this question from relatives would probably be top on your list. Relatives, especially older ones, would look at you skeptically if you are not seen in Indian clothes that often. Infact, you would be subjected to the taunting question concerning your aversion to supposedly culturally fit clothes not to mention the sermons concerning how a woman is supposed to be always dressed in one!
2. When are you getting married or engaged?
In India, marriages are first about family and afterward about two individuals. When you reach the marriageable age; the rhetoric from the relatives’ side boils down to just as few words- When are you getting married or engaged? It is annoying for it certainly isn’t the business of anybody’s kith and kin. But in India, snooping by relatives being acceptable, this is a question that plagues one and all!
1. When are you going to have kids?
Whether or not to have children; or when to have children is the prerogative of a couple; isn’t it? But in India the decision and the time for it is often decided by the infamous relatives! No sooner does a couple enter into wedded bliss that people around; mostly relations; get busy tormenting them with questions pertaining to having children! Whether in the name of ‘seeing their grandchildren’ or in the name of ‘carrying forward the family line’ or just for the heck of it, the question related to the ’good news’ becomes a burden or bad news rather!