” You make me perfect.”
Love is the most misunderstood and complicated feeling. It can either be a pain for your soul or can bring eternal sunshine in your life.
It has been said that people fall in love only three times in their life. As cliche as it may sound, this can surely be true for majority of people.
The first love is when we are children. It is the idealistic love where we believe that this fairy tale will have a happy ending and the relationship is fitting all the societal norms of happines. This silently makes us believe that this is the ideal and only love. This is the type of love where one swallows personal truths because societal view point trumps feelings.
It’s the love we think is right.
The second love is supposed to be the harder love. This love teaches us lessons about who we are and what do we need in love. This love surely hurts – lies, bitter truths, revelations and manipulations.
We may feel that we have made a different choice than our first one, but this cannot be farther than the truth. In its essence, we have made similar decision, hoping that this ending will be a different one. The only truth is that it will not be. It is a cycle of unhealthy, unbalanced and narcissistic decisions. It might involve severe physical, emotional and mental abuse, putting us on a high dose of drama.
It’s the love that we wished was right.
The third love is the one that we never see coming. It is spontaneous and unplanned. In the beginning it may look all wrong, destroying each and every ideals of what love is. This love comes so easy that we think it’s not even possible. It just swooshes into our lives and sweeps us right off our feet.
In this type, we just come close to a person and fit together like a jigsaw puzzle. There are no expectations, no ideals and no force to become someone that we are not. This kind proves to us that what we thought of what love is all wrong.
It’s the love that just feels right.
Thus, never stop loving. And it’s that possibility that makes it worth a try because you never know which one is your third love.
As Stephen Chobsky said,
We accept the love, we think we deserve.