Almost every successful or famous people on earth have one thing in common. They are being raised by a great or strong mother. To name just a few, George Washington, Abraham Lincoln, Thomas Alva Edison, Pablo Picasso, Charles Chaplin, Barack Obama, Maya Angelou, Sheryl Sandberg, etc. All these people were inspired and shaped their life by their mother and they have, in fact, hugely dedicated their life and success to their mother. Honoring his mother in the most epic way, Abraham Lincoln has dedicated his life to her by saying “All that I am or ever hope to be, I owe to my angel Mother”.
Not just the above-mentioned ones or other famous people, there are uncountable numbers of people in the world whose life and career was inspired and shaped by their mother. True, mother plays a great role in shaping the life and making the children become who they are. In this article, we bring you a list of 10 things, penned by author Rania Naim, that you learn from being raised by a strong mother.
1. Value of independence
You don’t need a man to save you or anyone to take care of you, you learn by example that you are capable of living a full and happy life without having to share it with someone else. You learn that you can build a home, raise kids, cook, and do the dishes all while having a thriving career.
2. Meaning of unconditional love
You saw your mom sacrifice her time, health and youth for you and your siblings, yet she never complained or gloated about how much she is suffering or how much she is doing. She always had a smile on her face and was happily giving more and more of herself. She taught you what selfless and unconditional love looks like, and you know you won’t be able to find that love anywhere else.
3. Loving and accepting oneself
You learn how to walk away from the things that are not meant for you. You learn how to keep going even when the whole world is against you, and you learn how to believe in yourself when everyone is doubting you. You learn that bad grades, heartbreaks, and failures don’t define you.
4. To be both strong and soft
Strong mothers are usually very sensitive they just hide it better, but you saw your mom silently cry over your pain, or stay up all night taking care of you when you were sick, or the nights she couldn’t sleep because something was troubling you. The way she hugs you when you down show unmatched compassion and tenderness and sometimes in a quiet corner you saw her shed a few tears.
5. It’s not easy being a woman
You learn that your opinion will be discounted, that you will be taken lightly when you’re being serious, but you will also learn that you can stand out in a crowd and force everyone to listen to your voice and accept your ideas.
6. To let things go and never to look back
You learn to let all the “what ifs” and “could have beens” go. You learn not to look back and wonder why life turned upside down. You just keep looking forward and let the past redeem itself. You learn that everything that happened got you to where you belong even if it is nothing you ever wished for.
7. The importance of patience and faith
You learn that God is looking out for you and your struggles, that everything will be OK in the end. Storms will pass and tomorrow is a new day. You learn to be patient with life, patient with timing, patient with success and patient with problems. You learn that patience is strength.
8. How to create one’s own happiness
You can find happiness in a difficult life. You can still be happy even if you are carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders. My mom taught me that I can always find something to smile about all I have to do is look closer.
9. She still knows more about love than you do
Even when you are generations apart, even if you are not fond of her love choices if she doesn’t approve of someone you better listen to her. She knows what she is saying; moreover, she doesn’t want to see you get heartbroken. As much as I hate to admit it, she got it right every time.
10. How to be a good mother
You’ve been raised by a mom who showed you how to truly take care of a family, who showed you that hard work pays off, who showed you that you can love someone unconditionally. She showed you how to be protective, loving, kind, compassionate, strong and resilient. She was leading by example, and whether you know it or not, you are following in her footsteps one step at a time.
We all love our mothers, but we have to accept the fact that not all mothers are great or strong. Strong mothers are like rare species. Meanwhile, kudos to all those mothers who are doing incredible jobs for their children and, most importantly, for themselves. They are the role models and backbone of the society.