When pregnant, there will be days when you would want to call in sick and stay the whole day in bed. And there will be days when you will not want to look at your partner’s face. Relax, don’t feel guilty about it at all. It’s just hormones at work tossing your life upside down.
If you are in two minds about your libido, which now appears like stranger, we have the answers to the questions that keep arising during pregnancy. Don’t fall prey to the misinformation floating around, read our advice and stop holding back.
1. Be ready to try new positions, but sex nevertheless will still be comfortable.
The missionary position might not work anymore. Try woman on top or the spooning position; the living room couch could also come in very handy. You know what we mean!
2. Tell your man it is safe, he won’t hurt the baby.
No matter how rough you guys get, he won’t be able to hurt the fetus, nor will the baby get to know that you two are up to mischief. On the contrary, most doctors ask couples to have an active sex life during pregnancy, it keeps the uterus active and healthy.
3. Avoid sex only if you are being treated for pre-term labor or placenta previa.
Pre-term labor is a condition where there is risk of going into early labor, and placenta previa is a pregnancy complication where the placenta grows in the womb and covers all or parts of the opening to the cervix. In both cases, sex has to be avoided.
4. Don’t let right and wrong position advice drive you mad, choose what is most comfortable.
No baby has ever got crushed in the missionary position, and no baby got hurt when the mommy was lying on her belly. Relax, pregnancy is a beautiful thing. Live every moment of it to the fullest.
5. Women, expect no urge for sex in the third semester!
By the third semester you get so bulky, big and tired that sex will figure at the end of your list of to-do things. Medically explained – by this time a hormone named prolactin comes into play and reduces your appetite for any sex.
6. Look in the mirror and proudly exclaim that you are one sexy and gorgeous Mama!
Your shape might be changing rapidly, but don’t let that dampen the woman inside you.
7. The no danger of getting pregnant is a liberating feeling for some.
Your new voluptuous shape could turn to be big turn on for your partner, who might want to get busy at the first opportunity. Getting pregnant by unprotected sex is no more an issue. Enjoy this new-found freedom till it lasts!
8. If you suspect that your partner might have STI, steer clear of sex, please.
Any disease transmitted through sex during pregnancy is extremely dangerous for you and your unborn baby. Even using protection will not be enough to protect the baby from the impending scare of infection.
9. Having sex in a normal pregnancy will not trigger labor.
Getting sexually aroused does not start labor nor is it a cause for miscarriage in a normal pregnancy. The contractions caused in the uterus are temporary and pretty harmless. But if you have a high-risk pregnancy, be sure to consult your doctor first.
10. Sex may feel different during pregnancy, just keep an open mind and relax.
Some find it more pleasurable, for you it may be awkward. Whatever be the case, you will go ahead and find out. Be ready for extra wetness that might add to the moment or make you feel conscious.
11. Women’s breasts get very tender; their partners need to know that.
Unless you tell your partner, he will not know if the increased sensitivity is a turn on or a turn off. Make sure you speak to him about it.
12. If you don’t like something, tell your partner.
Don’t hesitate to confide in your partner about not liking something that he is doing. Be open to other activities and be willing to experiment. You obviously cannot be a nun for nine months! Sometime just a caress, a kiss or a hug will make your day extra special.
13. No one can predict your sex drive during pregnancy; live by the day.
While some women feel that their desires are heightened, others find no interest in sex. Even if you don’t want to have sex, there is no harm in telling your partner that you still love your partner as much.
14. Give oral sex a pass, just to be on the safe side.
While most books will tell you that oral sex is safe, there is a fine line between that and inviting trouble. A bubble of air could become a life-threatening situation in a matter of minutes.
15. If the contractions after sex don’t go away in a few minutes, call your doctor right away.
Bleeding and pain after sex is not normal. Don’t delay and call your doctor right away. If you are asked to stop sex, please abstain and take good care of yourself. Don’t worry, you will be able to have sex once the baby is born.