How do you know if you are in the right relationship or not? There are two types of relationships that exist: toxic relationship (untrue) and true love relationship. Here, in this post, we bring some of the signs to help you recognize one from another.
1. You feel the need to be with someone.
If you feel you have to be with someone, then it is not true love. You should choose to be with the person and not out of need. Relationship out of convenience is not true love. You may get something, in terms of material things, while in relationship but your heart is not really into it. You may lie people by telling them you love them, but in your heart of heart you know yourself you are not and you don’t. True love is when you choose to be with someone and not out of need.
2. You are not yourself around that person.
If you are not yourself around that person, it is not true love. One effective way to check whether you are in true or untrue relationship is ask yourself whether you are yourself when around with that person. When you are in untrue relationship, you always put on a mask or pretend to be one. If you are in true love, you will never feel anxious. You will feel relaxed, confident, accepted and loved unconditionally. If you are in the situation where you can’t wait to get away from him/her, that is a big sign of untrue love.
3. You force love to happen.
There is nothing you can do or say to bring someone closer to you if the person is not meant to be with you. Simply, because you can’t force love. You can’t force feelings. You need to allow things to happen. If you feel you have to be in relationship with someone else, because you are afraid to be alone, or whatever reason it may be, it is not true love. True love is flawless and spontaneous.
4. Your consciousness level is not same.
If both of you don’t get each other, or can’t understand each other, it is not true love. If consciousness level is not same between the two of you, you will come to the point where you don’t have anything to talk about. If silence annoys you, that is not true love. True love speaks the same language.
5. Your partner doesn’t support you on things you like to do.
If your partner doesn’t support on things which you want to do or are doing, it is not true love. It creates feelings of being neglected or unappreciated. True-love relationship is full of support. You do what you like to do and the other just support you or doesn’t distract or interfere in what you are doing. But when you are in untrue relationship, there is full of ego and it looks like both of you are competing with each other in anything. Ego has no place in true love.
6. You are being tolerated.
You are in a toxic relationship if your partner is only tolerating you. True love is about acceptance, not tolerance. You chose to be with each other because of the way it makes you feel, not because of the way it has to.
7. You appear fine outside but feel miserable inside.
If your relationship looked just fine from the outside but you feel misery in the inside, you are in an untrue relationship. In true love, you have both inner and outer joy.
8. Dishonesty in the relationship.
If you don’t trust or keep constantly lying with each other, even on small things, it is not true love. Dishonesty has no place in true love or relationship. Honesty saves a lot of time for any couple. If both are honest, both can open up about anything and know each other’s needs better. However, many feel that if they are honest they will become vulnerable and being vulnerable will make them to be exposed.
9. You don’t evolve together.
If you don’t evolve together, then it is not true love. If you don’t evolve together mentally, spiritually, emotionally, and physically, it is clear that it is not true love. True love is that when you naturally evolve together. True love always stands the test of time as both partners evolve together. But if you constantly put each other down, don’t respect each other, then you are in an untrue relationship.
Remember, if you love who you are, you will always decide to walk away from the relationship that is not working for you. Because that is the only way to find the right partner with whom you are destined to be with forever.