Is There Anything Like Perfect S*x Time With Your Partner? Maybe!

3:00 pm 31 Oct, 2018

In this #MeToo era, a subject as fraught as sex can’t escape. Also, due to the must-measure-yourself-against-a-common-yardstick aspect, everything requires us to deal with crushing expectations. This includes sex expectations too. We’re always hearing that we could be having better sex, a better orgasm, or a better relationship. But how often do we hear the nitty-gritty of how much is good or bad for our sexual desires?

Sex expectations, you ask? Yes, like every good thing comes to an end, so does sex or those sweaty nights humping your partner. We women long to chat with our friends about it, but is it that glossy?



Why should orgasm come sooner than the speed of light?



Just like Karan Johar’s rapid-fire, orgasm has to come quickly too! But if it takes so long that you start dreaming about that fridge, you need rethinking! Focus on feeling good and hurray!


How long have you got before the ‘climax’?


That’s one landmark question in sex expectations! According to a 2015 study, the median length of intercourse is about 5.4 minutes, but some can even last for 7.5 minutes! How? More foreplay!


Why is foreplay your best friend?



Simple – sex is better if couples perform pre-arousal tactics. Indulging in touchy-feely, watching erotic movies, or lathering each other in bath soap – just do it! More arousal means better orgasm!


How much is ‘good’ foreplay then?



For starters, lovers indulging in 11-13 minutes of foreplay followed by 7-8 minutes of intercourse, are living the life king size! If you want to measure up to that, go buy yourself some kinky sex toys too.


What about expectations on ‘special occasions’?




Unrealistic expectations on special occasion = NO! Whether it’s your wedding night or a romantic weekend, don’t expect immediate action to cool off those fires. If you expect too much, you’ll probably end up sulking than relieving!


How quick is ‘too quick’ ideally?



Talking of sex expectations, studies suggest that intercourse which lasts 1-2 minutes is “too short,” 3-7 minutes is “adequate,” 7-13 minutes is “desirable,” and 10-30 is “too long”. Some interesting facts there!


What is your ‘ideal’ sex type?



Does your mind rattle between a quickie, intense lovemaking, adventure or fun sex? It should, because the kind of sex you want to have affects the length of the sex! Minus the premature ejaculation and farts!


Is there an average duration of intercourse?



For sexual intercourse, it’s good if you can spare an average of 5-7 minutes for anal or vaginal intercourse. Of course, that depends if you use the real deal or go for sex toys from shelves. Your stamina matters too!


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