Relationships are really sensitive and really fragile. It depends on how you handle it. Being deeply in love with a person and sharing a relationship with that person is one of the most beautiful things in this world. You must have heard people talking about falling in love and the magic one experiences during that moment. But have you ever come across someone who said that s/he is falling out of love?
Yes, you do fall out of love! and if you don’t realize that then it becomes worse than being in the depression.
You struggle to keep your relationship strong. You want to keep it healthy and lively as it was on its first day. But, with every passing day you are just getting emotionally unstable, full of anxiety and irritation. You want to stay in this relationship but still crave for a single life. Your better half has always been your priority but these days you just don’t feel that connection.
Days and months are passing by, and you are struggling with your thoughts during numerous sleepless nights. You don’t feel energetic towards your love and question yourself about the rights and wrongs all day. There is another person in your life with whom your mind feels sounder than being with your partner.
All this and many other feelings are signs that you are falling out of love! But why?
You generally skip the reasons behind such awful feelings but it’s better to know them and resolve them before it gets too late. The following could be reasons behind you or your partner falling out of love.
1. The long gone “honeymoon period”.
Initially, you both felt energetic and there was a sense of enthusiasm to know each other, explore each other and that made you both raise the bar of the relationship. Soon, things became monotonous and you became busy in your lives as well. Work, family, and friends, everything has started getting involved between you two.
But, you still crave those loving moments you shared. This change might not be affecting your partner but bothering you. You miss that honeymoon phase, you miss being with your partner all the time.
2. You have stopped feeling loved and appreciated.
People generally love it when others appreciate them and praise them. In terms of relationships, people praise their partner during the initial days of the relationship. But, when a relation becomes long term, then people tend to forget about showing gratitude towards their better half.
Compliments and recognition is one thing that makes everyone happy. Many a time, people feel neglected after receiving such cold behavior from their partner. This can make people feel that they are not being loved or adored.
3. You feel that “you” have changed.
With growing age, your priorities, likes/dislikes and desires change. It can happen that the person you loved in your twenties is the same person you start hating in your thirties. It’s not your partner who is changing, it’s just that you don’t want that person anymore because your wants and likes have changed.
In such cases, you must wait a bit, know and explore yourself more and then try settling into a relationship.
4. You find spending time with someone else more satisfying than with your partner.
You are getting emotionally disconnected from your partner. Getting distracted by your daily routine is common but what’s more important is to return to your partner at the end of the day. If you don’t feel like going back to your partner after a tiring day, then it’ a matter of concern. You somewhere are getting emotionally detached from your loved one.
5. Loss of independence and fading away “me time”.
In the struggle of compromising and adjusting, you have just lost yourself. You have reached a point where you look at your old photographs and remember what all you used to love in your past. You crave personal time, you crave to pursue your hobbies and interests but fail because of your relationship.
The anxiety of losing the things you used to love is actually mentally distancing you from your relationship.
6. Communication gap and boredom.
You both stays silent even when sitting alone in a single room. There is nothing between you to talk about. You feel that you have covered all the topics to talk about with your partner and there is just sex or silence in the room you both stay. You hardly go out or, many a time, just fail to find a good place to go to. There is nothing amusing happening between you two. You find it hard to approach him/her to share your personal thoughts.
Talking is a very important part of a relationship. We can solve numerous problems just by talking about it. And if you can relate to the points you have read above and you are still desperate to save your relationship, then my friend you really really need to talk about all this with your partner.
Tell him/her about the struggle your mind is going through these days, no matter how they react. It’s important for them to know that you are falling out of love.