The way we see relationships today is not exactly how our grandparents might have viewed it. Divorce rate is at all time high. Today, we are falling in love too easily, fighting quickly, giving up on relationships briskly and trying to force others to accept us how we are and expecting others to change for us at the same time.
Certainly, we are committing some mistakes that our previous generations had avoided comfortably or hadn’t had faced at all. Here, are 9 biggest problems that we see in modern-day relationships.
1. Not listening to one another
People, does it really take much to listen to one another? Everyone these days want to speak their hearts out to the person they are in love with and want to be understood, but nobody is prepared or patient enough to listen to the other person. If two people are to make decisions together, they need to listen to each other.
2. Lack of commitments
A lot of relationships die because of lack of commitment. The present generation is afraid of making long-term commitments. People now would rather run away at the first sign of crack in a relationship than try to mend it. People give up just too fast.
3. The zeal of attaining ‘relationship goals’
‘Relationship goals’ are a thing now and people are, sadly, falling for the unrealistic clichés created by movies and social media, and anything less makes people sad and question everything. They are no longer discovering the essence of individual relationships but comparing their relationships with misleading ideas and impressions that others show to them.
4. Influence of social media and dating websites
With the advent of social media and dating websites, it seems that people have access to infinite options and thus whenever they get into a relationship, they face emotions similar to buyers’ remorse and keep thinking about the ‘greener grass’ at the other side of the fence.
5. Chasing excitement constantly
Love somehow somewhere has been reduced to chasing excitement constantly and seeking the euphoric sensation that comes with love. While these feelings are sure to take place in the beginning of relationships, they usually fade away with time. Love is more than excitement and euphoria, but people lose their patience as soon as the excitement slows down.
Relationships are supposed to be mutual. It’s a shared emotion. But a time has arrived where people can get into so-called ‘relationships’ and whoever cares less about the relationship has all the power. He/she can manipulate the other according to his/her will knowing that the other person would do anything to save the relationship. This kind of relationship is everywhere.
7. Everyone is looking for “the one”
Everyone is constantly looking for ‘the one’ who can fill the gaps in their lives like a jigsaw piece. The concept of finding ‘the one’ has gotten so deep-rooted that people have taken it for absolute truth, and they would rather leave someone to keep looking for ‘the one’ instead of allowing the person to become ‘the one’. Most of the time, ‘the one’ does not appear suddenly all prepared. Often, people learn, change and improve overtime and become ‘the one’.
8. Cell phones
Cell phones have become such important part of our existence that people cannot stay even an hour without them. Even when they are talking with the person they are in love, they are constantly looking at their phones. Undivided attention has become a thing of the past. Life is fleeting; don’t completely waste it on phones.
9. Reaching milestones
To a great extent, relationships have become all about reaching milestones. People no longer ask important questions. They rather would ask when someone had his/her first kiss, when he/she had sex for the first time and when he/she is getting married. These are all milestones, and people constantly fall for the trap of achieving milestones rather than finding someone they truly can spend the life with. Most people, thus, get into relationships which they don’t want but they have milestones to reach.