To err is human; to realize you’re a erring human is to be aware of your faults, the mistakes you made, the things you could have done better, and so on. If you’re aware of your shortcomings, can you ever truly claim to be a good person?
1. ‘Good’ is a subjective word
What you mean by ‘good’ may not match what others mean by good. For example, a girl could believe she’s ‘good’ because she’s never had a boyfriend, and a girl who has a boyfriend may believe she is ‘good’ because she’s loyal to her friends. Get it? The same way, a serial killer might think he or she is better than others because he/she takes care of his/her mom. Someone who claims to be a good person may merely be using his or her own idea of being a good person, which may not match yours.
2. Someone claiming to be ‘good’ may not have depth
Knowing how flawed we are as human beings means that we are aware of our shortcomings. Intentionally or unintentionally, we’ve all hurt people, let them down, behaved irrationally, etc. Someone who says they are a good person might not spend time in self-introspection. They may see the superficial side of themselves and convince themselves that they’re good. You can claim that you try to be good and right, but you can’t claim you’re always good or always right.
3. Negative emotions are part of human lives
So many people who pretend to be good seem to be bubbly, sweet and friendly no matter what the situation. I get freaked out when I meet people who smile all the time. What the hell is that? There’s nobody who can be happy 24/7, not unless something is seriously wrong with them. While it’s not cool to have emotional outbursts all the time, it is okay to have bad days and to express your anger or frustration in a mostly controlled manner. Reality is better than constant pretense.
4. So-called ‘good’ people may actually harm your growth
We all seem to have that one friend who, even on our worst bad-hair day, will keep telling us we look gorgeous. We can view them as sweet or nice, but trusting them would be a mistake. We need friends who can be honest with us without being mean. This ‘good’ friend might be trying to not hurt our feelings but by supplying us with wrong information, is actually giving us wrong ideas of who we are and what is best for us.
5. ‘Good’ people can be more dishonest than ‘bad’ people
People who portray themselves as ‘good’ have a need to be liked by others; to attain this they’re quite capable of lying about themselves and others. We are all different from each other; even our friends and family members are vastly different from us. Yet we like each other despite the differences. A person who needs to be liked will pretend to like all that you like or pretend to be all that you are simply to have you think they are good and worth knowing.
6. People view ‘goodness’ as a competition
I have come across many people who claim to be good. Usually, the next sentence after they make this claim is to compare themselves with someone else and try and show how much better they are. You shouldn’t have to bring other people down to look good, but it’s one of the most common techniques used. Goodness resides within and it should shine from within; it must not rely on being surrounded by bad people to be noticed.
7. People think they should be rewarded for goodness
Some people use goodness as a commodity they can exchange for something else. Think of all the guys who say they’re good guys but girls put them in the friendzone. Pretending to be somebody’s friend to have sex with them doesn’t make you a good guy; it actually makes you a creep. A good guy would be honest about his intentions, not try to worm his way into a girl’s pants. Similarly, many girls bring up the topic of their goodness to receive compliments or to get a guy’s attention. Pathetic.