‘Ghosting’ might make you think of a ghost haunting someone. But it is actually one of the most common dating terms today. There are so many such dating terms the millennials are using these days that if you haven’t been dating in a while, you’re in for the surprise of a lifetime. If you’re a stickler for old-school romance, you would be devastated at the turn of events the dating and romance world has taken. And for the record, these dating terms are referred to as the dating ‘lingo’ by these millennials. So pretty much everything you (think you) know would be out of the window by now.
Frankly, it is going to be an exhausting task, but seeing no other way round to finding that ‘one true love’, you may as well be prepared with the most common dating terms and lingo anyway. So, here are some of the most common ones to help you get started.
Before you jump to conclusions, no, breadcrumbing isn’t putting leftover bread pieces into your tomato soup or any other food item. The millenials use this word as a dating term to describe someone who leads you on but never asks you out. They flirt with you through texts, compliment you regularly over social media and are always chatting with you but never actually take the leap and ask you out on an actual date. Fancy right? Who would have thought a food item could become a dating term?
As pointed out earlier this term doesn’t mean a ghost haunting you or something. This millenial dating term defines the act of someone suddenly disappearing (from your life and your social media) after you two have been going on pretty strong for sometime. They leave without closure, without even a hint that the relationship was going to end and of course, most importantly, without leaving behind a trial. They block and unfriend/unfollow you from every social media platform and they don’t answer your calls/text, or worse, they might even change their number. As if they had been a ghost!
No, this doesn’t mean keeping someone ‘benched’ during a football match. However, almost similarly, this dating term refers to the act of someone keeping you as ‘back-up’. What happens in benching is that after you have gone out with someone, on say, maybe two to three dates, they’re constantly in touch with you over social media and text, but they avoid or dodge taking you out on an actual date or asking you out again. Sounds like being benched in football, right?
Much like animals have ‘mating seasons’ millenials have now come up with the perfect season for dating. Yes, because why should humans miss out what animals can have, right? Yup, there is a dating term for it too and its called the cuffing season. It is the winter and fall season, during which period people generally like engaging in more of indoor activities. Hence, they can’t really go out on dates. So they keep a fixed partner for that season and problem solved! It is no surprise though that the relationship generally does not last beyond the cuffing season.
You might have come across (or maybe even done it yourself) this before. Remember that time when people created fake profiles? Yup, the millenials have named it ‘catfish’ and it is now one of the most popular dating terms around. So a catfish is basically someone who has created an entirely fictitious identity online. Suddenly reminded of Yahoo Chat, right? ASL please?
De Berging/Kitten Fishing
Sure, we all ask our friends for some dating advice and tips now and then. And so the millenials thought this action should also be one of the modern dating terms. Yup, de berging or kitten fishing is when a friend proofs, edits or even writes out texts and messages that you exchange with someone you’re dating or are interested in.
You probably figured this one out correctly. Remember Jay Gatsby from The Great Gatsby and how he threw lavish parties to get accepted in the upper class social circle and more importantly to win over a woman who was way out his league? The millenials have come up with Gatsbying as one of the new dating terms to define someone who posts videos and photos on social media just to get the attention of that ‘someone’ they’re interested in dating or have a crush on.
No, a laybe is not a ‘maybe’. It is actually an adjective given by millenials to someone who is in a bad relationship and/or is even on the verge of a break up. A laybe is someone who doesn’t want to wait around until after the breakup to start a new relationships and hence starts searching beforehand for their ‘next’ and keeps a few (dates or probables) ready, to start dating once they’ve broken up.
Ever heard of ‘friends with benefits’ or ‘no strings attached’ kind of a relationship. Yes, one of the modern dating terms by the millenials has a word for it, the ‘umfriend’. Because he or she is not a boyfriend but just an ”umm..friend”.
And you thought you had it all figured out!