A civil society demarcates what is acceptable and what is not. Many suffer from falling out of “normalcy”. One such community which is struggling for a strong footing is the LGTBQ one. The little victories celebrated by this community are laced with suicides, mental breakdowns and getting ostracized by loved ones. However, many rise from the pain and make history.
A 24-year-old homosexual man in the UK becomes the first Muslim to tie the knot in a same-sex marriage. Overcome by despair, Jahed Choudhary, once tried to kill himself because of the lack of support from his own people. Things changed and he found the love of his life to give a “happily ever after” to his story.
Jahed Choudhary faced many challenges trying to come out and make his family members understand his sexuality. Rejected and shunned by his people, Jahed was forced to take medication and go on a pilgrimage to Saudi Arabia and Bangladesh to cure his sexuality as if it were a disease. Born and raised in a traditional Muslim family, living as an openly gay person had been difficult.
I want to say to all people going through the same thing that’s it’s okay – we’re going to show the whole world that you can be gay and Muslim.
Bullying is a big problem for homosexuals which starts from their own homes, schools, and extends to social circles. The “unconventional” choices that Jahed made against being a stereotypical male stood out and made him a target for bullying in school. Choosing fashion over football did not go well with the societal norms,
It went all over school, people would spit on me, empty the rubbish bins on me, call me pig and the Muslim people would shout ‘harum’ – which is a very nasty insult in my language.
Reminiscing about the time when Sean Rogan, 19, came into his life, Jahed tells that he was at one of the lowest points in his life. The way these two met sounds like it’s straight out of a movie,
I’d not long overdosed and I was crying on a bench and Sean came over and asked if I was okay. He gave me hope at one of my lowest points and he’s stood by me all the way.
The lovers decided to get married after 2 years of dating. They tied the knot wearing traditional Muslim wedding garb. The duo is happy beyond expectations and they are going to Spain to celebrate their relationship.