Has this ever happened to you?
You are invited for a mehndi/cocktail party and you dress up more like a cocktail and less like a mehndi. And to your horror, there are people dressed more for mehndi and in fact no way like a cocktail!
I tell you, it is not a good feeling. You feel awkward, out of place and so downright uncomfortable in your understated dress when women’s bling-bling goes sparking!
When you step into the event hall in all your under-styled glory and you catch the first glimpse of bling and it gives you a mini attack. Shock, surprise and horror!
When you see your host friend dressed up in an outright vivid kurta and you strangle them five times in your head. Especially when fellow guests say, “Didn’t he tell you?” Annoyed, betrayed and ditched!
When you slowly start forgetting the awkwardness and join the dance floor and a lovely woman says ,”Don’t worry, you look fine.” Oh, thanks! Pitied, embarrassed and definitely not fine!
When they ask you to get clicked and you look like a ghoul in your black while they shimmer in greens and reds. Yes, because this memory needs to be etched forever so that you don’t commit this faux pas again. Skeptical, reluctant and Facebook-fearful!
When the scrutinizing gaze of aunties make you feel uncomfortable and you want to shout out how you are not trying to be modern. This day and this attire is totally a blunder, please don’t judge me! Misunderstood, misjudged and ridiculed!
When you get that one quiet moment where you scan the crowd to find at least one person dressed like you. You convince yourself, warn yourself and desperately flaunt your gold earrings to bring out SOME bling maybe! Odd, misery-wanting-company and distracted!
When you don’t want people to see you nervous and uncomfortable, so you put on your best face. The confident, charming smile can surely compensate for all that you’ve been missing. So strike the best pose and smile wide! Poised, calm and delightful!
As the night drags on, you sway your way to dance tunes and in the midst of all the laughter and chatter, you forget your awkwardness. You realize your appearance is really an illusion. People like you for who you are, not for what you wear after all. Pleasant, content and perceptive!
“People see us the way we see ourselves.”