We generally get to hear women say that men back out after discovering how strong and independent a woman they are dating is. If you are dating an independent woman, you need to understand that she is genuine, caring, loving and everything you want. She lives her life on her own terms; she has her dreams and goals; she understands that personal power is not about not needing someone, but about the ability to set standards and only welcome the people into their life who meet the bar.
Here are some traits a man should have before thinking about dating any independent woman.
1. A man with his own dreams and goals
In a relationship, both man and woman must gel. If the woman is independent she will want her man to be enthusiastic regarding his goals and dreams. He should not be any lazy ass who does not know where his life is going. There should be two teammates who have big goals to achieve. Else the other one will never understand why his/her partner is working so hard. Having your own goals helps you to value other’s.
2. He should feel secure about himself
A man who feels insecure and needs reassurance and validation from the woman he is dating will definitely mess up his relationship with her. If your significant other is independent then she will be secure and confident in herself and will want her man to be the same with her. She will likely show you love and affection because she cares for you and wants you to feel loved – she will not constantly be reminding you of how much she needs you in her life. Because she doesn’t.
3. He should respect her privacy
If the woman is focused on her missions and working on achieving her goals then she definitely does not care about what people will think about her or how it can affect others. In this social media generation, it gets hard to keep things private, but the man should be aware about his woman’s privacy. He should be aware regarding what she wants to keep personal and what she wants to reveal in public.
4. He should not pacify her
No, not at all. You should not be abrasive and disrespectful to your woman or any other. A man who is a ball of mush will never be able to hold the attention of a strong woman, because she will walk all over him and he will never give her the stability that she needs. The type of man who will fit well with a woman of this caliber will know when to be flexible with her and when to stand his ground. She will respect him for it.
5. He should be comfortable taking the rein
Your woman may be in charge 9 to 5 and acts as a boss Monday to Friday; that does not mean she wants to take charge of the relationship as well. Women appreciates and man who is a man. A man who can initiate romance, plan their date nights. A man who is chivalrous and respectful. A man who understands that a woman can be independent and should still be treated as a lady.
6. He should not be possessive or jealous
Possessiveness and jealousy are two factors that lead to heart break. Possessive, overbearing men are kryptonite to strong women. She will push you away in seconds if you have a jealousy factor and issues with her work and routine. This nature of yours can be an obstacle in her way to progress and she definitely will not like that. She is busy and doesn’t need (or want) her hand held constantly. She works best with a man who lives his own life alongside hers, not one that tries to intertwine the two.
7. He should be a strong communicator
With this it does not mean you should be expressive in showing love only. Well, that is important along with knowing how to listen and interpret her. Not all women love to speak about their emotions. They express that in their own way. Hence, you should be the one who can understand and communicate with them.
8. He should never be condescending
Treat her as an equal and you will learn big life lessons from her. She can always teach you something new. Don’t think she cannot understand your issues and problems; discuss them with her. Have deep conversations with her and try to conceive her thoughts. This will help you both to come closer as well as help you two to build a bond.
9. His support should be unwavering
Men and women who are strong and secure in themselves will have no problem standing behind their partner when support is required. They will not betray their trust or discourage them from living the life they want to live. The right type of man for a strong woman will know when to stand in front of her when she needs protection, behind her when she needs support, and beside her when she wants a teammate.
10. He should have a great sense of humor
You should know how to make your girl laugh when she is feeling low. Despite the hard outer shell, some strong women display, they are still human beings who experience every emotion. Just like others, she also wants to have a good time laughing with you. A man who can lighten the mood at just the right times will not only be a great lover, but a great best friend.
Respecting each other’s weaknesses and strengths, you will come out to be a best team if you can fill out the puzzle pieces of one another. Love is a team sport, and with the right person by your side, you will always win the game.