Love is something we yearn for and something we mourn the loss of. Love is overwhelming, love is painful, love is sweet and love is devastating. It seems impossible to imagine this world and our existence without love. These emotions aren’t an abstraction, though they appear to be.
Our body responds to love psychologically and physiologically. Today, we take a look at some psychological facts that helps us to understand the science and the truth behind this wonderful feeling called LOVE:
1. Falling in love at first sight is apparently true according to psychologists. It takes only 2-4 minutes to fall for someone or to make a good impression on someone.
It has little to do with what you say and more to do with how you say. Your body language, tone and pace take front seat here, not words.
2. When two people in love look into each other’s eyes for three minutes, their heart-rates sync up with each other.
Isn’t that wonderful?
3. Being in love is identical to being hooked to cocaine; it produces equal chemical euphoria and has nearly similar effects on a person’s mind.
4. Wonder why we act so inappropriate and irrational when we fall for someone? Well, it’s not your fault, it’s the chemical known as cortisol.
Love is very similar to Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, and you act irrational because of production of cortisol.
5. Feeling butterflies in your belly when you fall for someone is real and it is because of the adrenaline rush you experience as the body’s response to a fight-or-flight situation.
The next time you feel this adrenaline rush on seeing someone, know that love is in the air, my friend.
6. Be careful who you look at, because you can fall for a stranger if you keep gazing at them.
It is because our body produces a chemical, phenyl ethylamine, which is also related to the body’s fight-or-flight response. Too much staring means you’re ready to fight and, in essence, also ready to fall in love.
7. The fourth finger of the left hand has the vena amoris, the ‘vein of love’, which is believed to be connected directly to the heart.
This is the reason why we put the engagement rings on the fourth finger of the left hand.
8. According to research, people who share the same level of attractiveness or are equally socially desirable are most likely to end up with each other.
9. Partners with too much similarity or too many differences tend not to last very long.
10. People generally prefer an attractive face over an attractive body when they are looking for a long term relationship.
Whereas in the case of flings, a hot body will win over a beautiful face.
11. Research suggests that men are drawn to women having a similar bone structure to their mothers.
They have named it ‘sexual imprinting’.
12. According to couple psychologists, human beings are not capable of being ‘just friends’ with members of the opposite sex.
13. Women find guys extra appealing if they notice other females smiling at them.
14. If any person is ready to be in a relationship, they are more likely to seek out love, than those who shy away from it.
15. Research has shown that men and women are more likely to fall for each other in dangerous situations than in uneventful surroundings.
16. A powerful sense of humor is correlated with a high sense of intelligence, no wonder ladies long to be with humorous men.
17. ‘Broken heart’ is just not an expression, it an actual medical condition.
Traumatic events like break ups, divorce or loss of a loved one can cause real heart problems.
18. If you feel tired, stressed or are having a headache – cuddling or hugging is the best alternative to painkillers.
Cuddling releases a hormone known as oxytocin, a natural painkiller, which relieves pain. It can effectively keep you away from pain for a maximum of 4 hours.
19. If you feel sick, simply looking at the picture of a loved one can soothe the pain.
It has the same effect as the presence of someone.
20. Couples in love can reduce each other’s pain or any other feelings of stress and fear just by holding hands.
21. The simple act of expressing gratitude towards people whom you love will generate an immediate spike in happiness.
22. Do you think that only humans stick with one partner? You are mistaken, as there are some animal species that live with one partner: wolves, swans, penguins and even termites.
23. Eventually, romantic love is replaced by committed love.
You won’t feel that spark or butterflies later in a relationship, but the feeling will never fade away. It is the result of the formation of the neurotrophin protein levels.
24. Perfect love is the combination of passion, commitment and intimacy based on the triangular theory of love.
The most robust love would include all these three components.
25. In the end, the feeling of love itself is what the matters most.