In their zeal to make them perfect working machines, some Indian parents are smothering the individual identities of their children. They are making grave mistakes in parenting that are leaving a mark on their souls for a lifetime. Just because your father was a doctor it is not necessary to brainwash your teenager child to become one too, at any cost. There is an undercurrent of rebellion that is set to put our age old society norms on fire. The sooner we recognize that sadness in the eyes, the feet stomping and lack of communication the faster we can look for a solution. Have a look at some freaking wrong and embarrassing things Indian parents tell their kids.
8. Humare time mein aisa nahi tha
The answer lies in the question itself, how can things remain same for ages. If in your time eating out was not a fad, it is now. So just because you only relished mummy ke hath ka khana, there is no reason why the child can’t go out and experience the world. Some of them also comment that we only got clothes twice a year and you want them every month, so do you really expect the children to wear the same pair every time. Isn’t it insane?
7. Ye behuda gane band karo, humare time ke gaano ki baat hi kuch aur thi
The moment a child switches the channel to MTV you hear a voice in the background saying – Yeh dham dham kam ya band karo. We live in a free country and have our fundamental rights. Every time a raunchy number is being aired, is it necessary for the parent to spoil the fun by comparing it to the legends like Kishore, Mukesh, M. Rafi, Lata didi, and R.D. Burman. Music is supposed to be the fodder for the soul, please feed your souls and let them too in peace.
6. Mera paise ka ped nahi hain
In the entire length of this country this dialogue must have been heard in every language. It’s a classic dialogue that always leads to instant rebellion. Money should never be used to control children. It’s a weapon whose futility they understand at a very small age and then use it to get unnecessary favors. It is good to teach children the value of money, but not by putting them down every time they demand something.
5. Chup karo, bade hoge tab samajh aayega
Some parents behave like an ostrich when their children ask innocent questions uncomfortable topics. They might be related to ads on TV or what they heard in school. The body language changes instantly and the child is made to feel like a culprit. Some even tell them to stop being impertinent. How can a question for which the child does not know the answer be impertinent? The biggest problem that parents are facing today is a total breakdown of communication.
4. Log do waqt ki roti ko taraste hain, tumko sab milta hai isiliye dimag kharab ho raha hai
Every time the child wants to leave the spinach on his plate or refuses to eat something he dislikes, he is fed this dialogue along with the food. Children today have so much awareness about different foods and flavors, that expecting them to eat the humble yellow dal and sabzi everyday, is expecting the moon to come down. And how will this forced feeding help the starving kids on the streets?
3. Kyun? Kyunki main keh rahi hoon, bas
Just because you had a bad day, the child doesn’t need to be snapped at for asking for an explanation. Most parents try to shut their children up when they do not have a logical reason for an order that they had issued. Please understand that we are dealing with the Gen X now, if you want some respect start doing some home work, before pass any laws. They might still do it but in the long run will fail to respect you as a role model.
2. Tumhare bas ka nahi hain
Some parents are experts at shattering a child’s confidence, intentionally or not. A child looks up to his parents for encouragement and support. It has been seen that successful parents put down their children and force them to doubt their capabilities. Instead of leaving them in the lurch, they should try and be their guide and mentor. The constant comparison to a more successful sibling can also cause havoc to the child’s inner self esteem. Every child is unique and has his bag of unique talent.
1. Kitni baar poochoge
Children can be exhausting and parents need loads of patience when dealing with them. They have different personalities and varying needs. Some get it right the first time most don’t, if you ask him this question every time he wants to clarify, he will one day stop asking. The damage that wrong learning will do to him will be irreversible. A parent is a child first teacher, be his Guru and he will give you the dakshina of love and respect for life.