Isn’t our mind supposed to be a big secret? Can someone really read our minds? I know those questions are already popping in your mind as you stumble upon this article. That does not make me a mind reader; anyway, that was just a wild guess. We assume that our thoughts are not predictable; no one can understand what is going on in our mind. That is not true. According to Derren Brown, UK’s psychological magician, “People’s belief that they are not predicable is actually one of their more predictable traits”. With practice and training many people can learn the skills of mind reading. You may have to increase your power of observation and deduction to master this skill. Our thoughts often beget a physical reaction that may go unnoticed by an untrained eye. But, if you can observe every minute details of the reaction, then you can interpret what is going on in that persons mind easily. Here are 6 ways to read a human mind, if you have patience to do the drills to learn the skills.
Warning: Mind reading is not making conclusions about what others are thinking. Never jump to conclusions and make hasty decisions or harsh remarks. It may be very harmful for your relationships.
6. Guess and anticipate
It may come as a shock to you that you will be using skills like guess work and anticipation when reading people’s mind. It is true what you guess or anticipate may be wrong, but if you surrender silently to your instincts, it will tell you a lot about the person in front of you. You have to learn to listen to your gut. List out your guesswork and assumptions you have about the person and then slowly try to see if you are right through other methods listed below.
Do not just see a person. Learn to watch, observe and absorb visual clues. These visual clues will help you understand what is going on in a person’s mind in a better way. The way a person walks, dresses, stands, sits, expressing interest in what you are doing, age, gender, height, weight, and many other things which you do not care for generally are great visual clues to a human mind. High heels, hats, color of dress, nails, hairstyle and many other way a person presents him/herself tells you a lot about their mind and thought process, if you care to learn.
Listen not just to the words, but also to the tone, pitch and pacing of the words. More than what a person says, how a person says it, gives a lot more insight into what is going on in his mind. You should learn to study the changing tone, pacing of words, shifting of pitch, wandering of eye and many other visible clues a person gives out when talking to you. With proper drills and training, you will finally gain the skill to understand and read the clues to a human mind through his speech.
3. Take advantage of Forer Effect
A great showman known for tricks in circus, P. T. Barnum, used statements that will apply to anybody in general, but will make the person being referred to feel that you know something about him/her. This is known as the Forer effect. When you communicate with a person using the Barnum statements, the subject may reveal a lot of things going without even realizing it. Study in detail how to deploy Barnum statements effectively in your conversation.
2. Study body language
Even as an infant you were able to understand the emotional state of your caregiver through the body language. Too much of information and preoccupation blunts our skills of reading a body language. Renew your skill and sense of observation to notice the signals being sent out by people. People can control what they say, but there is little they can do about their body language. The way a person stands, crosses his arms, positions his head to looks at you will reveal a lot about what is going on in the persons mind. It also tells you a lot about his characteristics and personality traits. For being a mind reader, you need to get a thorough knowledge of body language and what they mean. Start with Allan Pease’s “Body Language” which is an easy to understand book with illustrations.
1. Look in the eyes
“The Eyes are the window to your soul”. Peep in through those windows and you will be seeing right through the person’s soul. In fact Simon Baron-Cohen of University of Cambridge has developed on online tool known as Reading the Mind in the Eyes Test (RMET) to improve your mind reading ability. The eyes and areas around the eyes are very expressive regions through which a person exhibits his emotions. Anger, sadness, boredom, sexual desire, lust, happiness, fear, jealousy and many more expressions are easily expressed through eyes. For e.g. a larger pupil indicates interest whereas smaller pupils tell you the person is not interested in whatever you saying or doing. There are such important clues thrown at you every moment. Learn to catch and study them to be a good mind reader.