Dominance is having an upper hand in a situation or a relationship by a person. Dominance is often mistakenly associated with bullying, exerting power, being in control or subduing another individual. Natural dominance comes from confidence, wisdom and winning respect which is not an easy task. People who try to bully or subdue others may be disliked by others, but a subtle, smart and natural dominant person is respected and loved by everyone. Before embarking on your venture of being a dominant person, first you have to draw a line between dominance and arrogance or aggressiveness. Here are 6 smart and subtle ways to show dominance without annoying or enraging others.
6. Do not bark:
Barking dogs seldom bite. Do not try to exert power or control a situation by threatening or barking out orders. That does not work always,or with everyone. The smart way is to insinuate and be covertly persuasive, which will not just get the message passed on, but the individual on the other end will not feel like being under pressure or pushed down. When you try to dominate people with rough talk, it only takes some time before they rebel against you; but with proper skills they may not even know that they being dominated. Keep in mind that your action will have to speak out for you to be dominant. A person who orders everyone into water for swimming, but declares he cannot swim will not remain dominant for long.
5. Time your words and behavior:
Untimely demands are likely to get rejected; in addition it may cause negative feelings among people. Say right things at the right time, so that you will face less rejection and more acceptances. When you time your action and words appropriately, the positive response from others becomes a routine, and you will be dominating without your own knowledge. A smart person makes hay while the sun shines.
4. Create a proper balance:
To be dominant person, it is highly important that you be firm and stern. This quality of a dominant person is universally known and accepted. What many do not know is that it is equally important to be empathetic, flexible and understanding to remain dominant. A person who is very stern and firm without understanding what others are going through will soon hear the common response to such behavior, “Go to hell”. That will be the end of the dominance.
3. Set your limits:
People do not hate dominant people; contrary to general belief, they are respected and loved by everyone. It is when dominance crosses its limits and turns into controlling or arrogant behavior that you generate negativity in people around you. Set your limits, and learn to let go when you have to. Giving in to others once in a while will not change you into a submissive weak person; in fact, it will earn you respect of others. Realize that arrogance and controlling behavior are signs of your weakness, fear and loss of self-confidence.
2. Be Polite but assertive:
Being assertive and open about what you want is quite important if you trying to be a dominant person; the only catch here is to be polite while making your point. Rudeness will cut the line drawn between being dominant person and being controlling person. Keep control over your emotions and avoid emotional outbursts. A calm peaceful voice can convey your message in a much better way than a loud and rude tone. Giving into fears, anxiety, anger or impatience will hinder your progress towards being a dominant person.
1. Dominance over yourself:
If you cannot exert dominance over your own choices, emotions, actions or words, there is very less chance that you will have any influence at all on others. Gain confidence, self-control and try to manage your life on your own terms. Do not lose control under testing time, because, this is your opportunity to prove your mettle. Express exactly what you want, not just with words, but more through your body language. Do not allow sugarcoated words to manipulate your self-control. Dominance is not always walking down the path you choose, but it is not allowing others to misguide you to walk down the wrong path. Try to earn respect with the compassion you show for others, not their wrath by showing your selfishness.