Can you imagine that moment when you have to live without that person whom you love the most? Feels dreadful, right?
Ever thought about the families, wives, mothers, and children of army men? People who serve our nation day and night; their families die every second thinking about that horrific moment when they will get a call about their son’s, husband’s or father’s death.
A wife of an Army man shared what it feels like to be a lover; a wife of a man whose life stays in danger every second. Yet that person wakes up every morning with a smile just to serve his country.
She expressed her struggle of staying away from him for months, handling their three-year-old daughter. Staying strong and keeping faith in God is the only option she has because the man whom she loves is out there guarding the border and keeping the country safe.
This story will surely leave you with teary eyes so keep the tissues ready!
We first met when I was studying law at Symbiosis and he was a cadet in the Academy. It all started out in a funny manner — My friend and I would take a 11 Rupee bus ride every weekend to the NDA only because the food was much cheaper in their canteen!
That’s how we became friends but pretty soon he moved to the IMA to Dehradun and as an officer he was posted all over India. Believe it or not, the only way we kept in touch through the whole time was through letters. It was 2002 and cell phones had just come in, so we would write to each other about our days; about our lives. They were all innocent letters, but they were amazing because it gave me an insight into how simple he is as a person.
After six years he finally proposed her with a promise of love and stability…
6 years went by like this, and finally after that he sent me an SMS saying – ‘I really feel for you and I would like to be with you’— and at that point it all just fit. There was no over the top proposal, or exorbitant gesture…but there was love and stability.
After marriage I moved with him to Bhatinda, where I was working as a lawyer from home. Those two and a half years that we were together were so special, but being a professional I knew that I couldn’t move around every 2 years with him and some of the places he was posted the only job available to me was that of a teacher, and that’s not what I became a lawyer for.
Together, we took the decision that I would move to Bombay to pursue my career and he would continue his postings. It’s tough, it’s really tough but it puts so many other things in perspective. For one – our long letters have become long whatsapp conversations!
They meet after every 4 months for 15 days, the most cherishable days for them.
We see each other maybe once in every 4 months, but those 15 days of seeing and being with him mean everything to me; to us — we have a 3-year-old daughter. I feel like there are no words to speak of an army man’s passion towards his country. Here we complain about bonus and leave dates, but in the army you’re at the same rank, with the same pay for a decade before moving up. He’s currently in aviation, but there are days when I wake up with anxiety an ask him not to fly. There are days when I miss him so much and my daughter will console me and tell me it’s for our country. He’s such a good father that even though he’s so far away, he’s involved with her school work — he often makes her recite what she learnt in class on the phone.
Every soldier should be celebrated every day for the sacrifices they make to protect our nation.
That’s the thing, we only celebrate our Jawaans once they’ve lost their lives, but we need to celebrate them everyday. My husband has lost so many of his batchmates to war or technical failures. There are days where there’s no communication between us because he’s in an area where there’s no network and finally after days he’ll call us up to tell us he’s okay. It’s so difficult for us, and even though this is his profession, I don’t think there’s been a day where he’s complained — everyday he wakes up with a smile on his face because he’s serving his country.”
Salute to every soldier who risks his life for the sake of our nation. Salute to their wives, mothers, children, and family members who keep themselves strong and send their love with a very brave heart. Salute to this wife and her three-year-old kid for their courage and faith.
We wouldn’t have felt this safe if they wouldn’t have made such sacrifices! You can read the entire post here.