19 Reasons Why Watching Porn Is Bad For Your Real Sex Life

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6:19 pm 31 Mar, 2016


Porn is an ever invasive presence in our lives. It’s available free, on many sites and is constantly trying to get our attention via pop-up ads or banners. It is no wonder then that more and more people are watching porn and that porn sites like PornHub see more traffic than most others. It is, however, foolish to think that all this porn-viewing will not affect the viewers.

Just yesterday, a friend IMed me, distraught that her husband was watching porn while their sex life fizzled out. While she was making efforts to try and fix the problem, he found his solace in graphic porn. “I guess I should be relieved that he’s not cheating,” she wrote, “but somehow it feels like he is.” It made me think of how viewing porn can go from being a harmless act to a constant problem. Reading up about it made me realize the following facts:

 

1. Watching porn induces the Coolidge Effect, where people seek newness. That means sex will only be fun for you if you can manage to find new partners all the time. It’ll be harder to get and stay aroused if you get into a long-term relationship.

 

2. Porn is affecting younger and younger kids, with kids younger than 12 admitting that they’ve watched porn. That’s means they’re starting off with very unrealistic expectations at very impressionable ages.

 

3. 64% of people surveyed in the NoFap Reddit community revealed that watching porn had made their sexual tastes more extreme or deviant.

 

4. Among the age group of 27-31 on NoFap, 11% suffered from premature ejaculation, 19% didn’t want to have sex with their partners, 22% had trouble reaching orgasms, 23% suffered from erectile dysfunction, and 29% had decreased sensitivity.

 

5. Nearly half of the porn addicts on the NoFap community have never had sex.

 

6. After they stopped watching porn and masturbating, 50% of previous addicts were more willing to talk to women, and 67% had an increase in energy levels and productivity.

 

7. Cambridge University conducted brain scans of porn addicts and found that they looked exactly like those of drug addicts.

 

8. Porn addicts believe that their addiction causes depression and anxiety, and it also negatively affects their ability to find a romantic partner.

 

9. One out of every five people who watch porn admits to feeling controlled by their sexual desires.

 

10. Porn can quickly go from being a casual pastime to a full blown addiction that takes up hours each day and can take a toll on the body.

Dean Winchester

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11. Watching porn releases dopamine which causes pleasure, but regular release of dopamine desensitizes the brain and leads to a dull response to sexual stimulation over time.

 

12. This dulling of the dopamine effect means that viewers need to watch more porn than before to experience any pleasure. They also need to watch more graphic and extreme content.

 

13. A German study revealed that watching pornography can shrink men’s brains. The striatum area of the brain (linked to motivation and reward response), shrank in size as the person watched more porn.

 

14. Men who view porn are more likely to have casual sex and extramarital affairs. While viewing porn led to casual sex, having casual sex didn’t predict porn use – so one can’t say that cheaters are drawn to porn.

 

15. One of the effects of an orgasm is the release of oxytocin, the bonding hormone, which helps bind you to your partner. When you watch porn, your ‘partner’ is in the screen, so your brain forms an attachment to those images, driving you to keep watching porn.

 

16. In couples where one is into porn and the other isn’t, it leads to sexual dysfunction. Only if both partners like to watch porn, can it lead to fun times.

 

17. In a study in ‘Archives of Sexual Behavior’, 36% of women said they equated porn with cheating and 40% said they see is as a sign that their partner is sexually dissatisfied.

 

18. Porn viewing does something strange to men: it makes them have high expectations from women; yet in real life, their preference is for a computer screen and a bottle of lotion rather than a real woman.

 

19. A 2011 British study found that men who view porn crave intimacy and closeness more than those who don’t. The act of watching porn is like a surrogate for real intimacy.

 

Sources: menshealth, pando, dailymail.

 

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