If you are having trouble in your sex life even though you love your partner, it can be very frustrating. And if not dealt with immediately it can even lead to trouble in the relationship which otherwise might be perfectly healthy. But there is no need to worry because it is very common for partners to fall into troughs where their sex life takes a hit. Things can easily be changed by taking some easy steps to mix up your routine and get you out of the rut.
Eating healthy is not just something you need to do when your doctor tells you that your cholesterol is off the charts. Eating healthy should be your lifestyle and there are many reasons for that. Not the least of which is that eating healthy makes you feel sexier. Fast food might be delicious but it also makes you feel bloated and full and it’s hard to be sexy when you just want to lie in bed and sleep. Just remember that a healthy body is a sexy body.
Exercise is also as important as eating healthy. If you are not fit, you can’t be good at sex because it is a very physical activity. Exercising too has multiple benefits and should be a lifestyle choice rather than something you do once in a while. It will help you be fit and healthy which in turn will help you feel sexy and perform better during sex.
A lot of people find sex stressful because they are not comfortable being naked. It can be either because they don’t like their body or because they have been brought up in a way to feel ashamed and awkward while being naked. If you are conscious of your body image then eating healthy and exercising will help you improve your body. If you are just shy then try working on it by being naked when you are all alone.
Meditation is the third thing on this list that makes sense even if you have no problems with sex. It has multiple benefits, one of which is that it helps you form a better mind body connection which improves your sexual performance. It also helps you beat stress and we all know that stress is not good for sex.
If nothing seems to be working then maybe you just need to take a break from sex. You need to abstain from sex for a few weeks. Don’t even think about it, especially if you have been worrying too much about how your sex life has become boring and dull. Let your partner know that you don’t want to have sex for a while and try to explain to them the reason why you are doing this. Taking your mind off it for a while helps recharge your sexual energy.
When people find their sex life has fallen into a boring routine it is usually accompanied with a boring routine in life as well. It is a pattern that can occur during the middle age. You get settled in a fixed comfortable routine and so does your sex life. Changing your daily routine can help you break this cycle. Once you get some excitement into your life it will follow into your sex life as well.
One good way of improving the sex life is to get out of the house. The house is familiar and it forces you to stick to your usual routine. As we’ve seen routine is not very good for sex. Getting out of the house and checking into a hotel for the night can be a good way of sparking up new embers of desire. If you need a big change try going on a holiday. It can be your second honeymoon.
Rope play is a good way of skyrocketing your sex life. When I talk about role play it doesn’t have to be hard core BDSM stuff. Just try out a few fantasies that you or your partner has. Ask your partner to dress up in a certain way that turns you on. Also remember to fulfill your partner’s fantasies once they’ve obliged with yours. It’s a great way to make things interesting after years of familiarity.
Aphrodisiac foods have been used by cultures ever since the dawn of civilization. There are many aphrodisiacs available and you’ll have to try several of them out to find out which of them work the best for you. You can try eating red chilies, asparagus, avocado, bananas, dark chocolate, oysters, pomegranates, red wine, salmon, walnuts, vanilla, watermelon etc.
One of the best ways to spark up your sex life is to rekindle the romance with your partner. After years of marriage and having kids the romance usually dies and it’s hard to have enjoyable sex with someone you don’t feel romantic towards. You can plan a surprise for your partner and think of them as if you are dating again. Getting romantic is a sure shot way of improving your sex life.
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