“Mary…who?”—Until three years ago this would be our reaction when someone would try to talk about Mary Kom as most of us didn’t know about her, the three times World Cup Champion in boxing and the second runner up at the 2012 London Olympics among numerable other similar accolades. However, nowadays, thanks to the Olympics show (the only event that makes us aware of the athletes) and, more to the commercial biopic made on her under Sanjay Leela Bhansali’s banner that finally we have started recognizing her and give her the respect she has deserved since years now. In spite of being from a prejudiced area in India, she brought India much fame, and this list is dedicated to her. It features some of the lessons she taught us through her endless struggles and her umpteen successes—
5. You Lose a Game Only When You Quit
This is the mantra of life propounding by the sages and the diplomats alike since ages. However, it is this woman who didn’t try to propound any theory, rather she demonstrated it. No matter how big and impossible a feat is, giving up without trying is a sign of the weaker hearts. And, surely, no self respecting person would want to surrender without at least trying. Hence, one lesson learnt. Be it solving a mathematical query or losing your habit of smoking, if you don’t try till the end, you can achieve nothing.
4. What is the Worth of a Readymade Success?
Obstacles are the bound to appear in our paths to success. But surrendering to them won’t fetch us anywhere. Mary Kom had also seen numerous failures and obstacles, and some very serious ones at that. So why do you think she’s now at the top of the world? Well, it’s precisely because she took obstacles as a part and parcel of the road to success, and learnt a great deal from those obstacles. Hence, if you can treat those obstacles as experiences and learn something from then, then success cannot stay aloof from you long.
3. Do you Still Think Women are Weaker?
Well, the notion of women as being the “weaker sex” has been counterfeited by numerous feminists through numerous books and seminars. But, Mary Kom went a bit further to actually show, through her own life and achievements, that if she’s led to do what she actually wants, and if, like the guys, she is actually listened to and helped by some well wishers, she can also ride to the zenith of success. And, being hailing from a lower middle class North eastern background, she has indeed set an example to all the girls alike, irrespective of any social divisions.
2. Do you Think Motherhood is Everything?
Well, women have been entwined with the symbol of all surrendering mother since ages and more so in India. In fact, it is a firm belief among many that women’s sole aim in life should be to give birth to generations, and once a mother, she must stop everything. But, Mary Kom has shown us the other side of it. She showed that women can actually manage motherhood and work or hobby (whatever you find it right to say) side by side and excel in both of them. To those women out there who surrender themselves completely to motherhood and other filial duties, she is indeed an idol.
1. Okay, Did You Think Love isn’t For the Not-so-womanly Women?
Now, many people harbor the notion that love is solely for those women who are defined by their feminine charm and coy demeanor. Guys love only those women. Now, if you thought alike, then it’s time for another thought revolution. Love connects hearts and it has got nothing to do with what profession you’re in or what clothes you wear. And, this is again something that is worth learning from Mary Kom’s life. Mary Kom achieved the peak of her success after marriage, and a love marriage it was! It’s wonderful to know how a single woman’s achievements and life shattered so many established stereotypes with women!