You are in a long-term relationship and have decided to take it further. You plan to meet his parents for the first time. It sure is a jittery feeling, with many apprehensions. Your biggest fear being – what if they hate me or what if things go wrong?
1. What if they don’t like my dress?
You know that your future mother-in-law is going to notice every detail of your appearance and going to discuss it later.
2. Should I be formal or will they like someone more casual?
You might fear getting caught awkwardly in the middle of the introduction process. You can just greet his father formally but what to do with his mother, is a thing to think about.
3. Where should I sit and how do I sit?
You really hope that they (at least your boyfriend) would guide you on this, if not, what then? Where do I sit, on the sofa, the settee, the chair? Should I look them in the eyes, or keep them low?
4. Question terror – “Where did you guys meet for the first time?”
You constantly fear about saying something different than what he has told his parents about your first meeting. You really cannot afford that, right!
5. What if I say that f*** word in the middle of the conversation?
You are excited and once you get comfortable, you just lose control over your words. You fear that if it happens, it would ruin your first impression completely.
6. What if I drink too much out of nervousness and can’t control my bladder?
On such occasions, you feel compelled to talk or run out of any topic to talk about. To avoid such long, awkward silences, you drink many times and this in turn will fill up your bladder soon and you will have to visit bathroom several times.
7. I’m not used to wearing heels, so what if I trip awkwardly? For some reason you may fear tripping and falling. Maybe you’re not used to wearing heels, or even formal Indian attire which you have worn for the occasion of meeting his parents. And of course this could be super embarrassing.
8. Should I get too comfortable with his parents and spill our secrets?
It is obvious that his parents are going to tell you many things about him. In such case, you may end up sharing secrets about your partner, which may not go well with them.
9. What if I don’t like the food? Should I still shower some praise or just keep mum?
There are chances that you will not like the food, but you will have to pretend that you liked it and look happy.
10. What if my phone rings in the middle of a conversation with a ‘Badshah’ tune?
Phone on vibration mode is still not as embarrassing as when it rings with a ringtone from a Honey Singh song or a ‘Badshah’ number. Will his parents judge you for that?
11. What if things go well and the conversation shifts from dating to the wedding? It is fine when the discussion is about dating but a wedding conversation can make you numb and clueless. Although it is a positive sign that his parents have liked you, but be prepared with an answer for this one in advance. Last minute surprises can pull you into a shock.
12. OK, what if at the end of it, they don’t like me that way?
You feel that you will not be successful in impressing his parents. Here you lose all your confidence to meet them in the first place. Don’t let this bother you. Just go with the flow.