Most often people fall victims to psychopaths because they fail to identify them when they see them. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, fooled almost every one of his victims with his charming ways. For those who imagine psychopaths to be masked, huge, horrible and evil looking people on the lines of Jason Voorhees of Friday the 13th; the truth can be very shocking. Unless someone is aware of the typical characteristics of a psychopath, it is very tough to identify them, as the warning signs are quite covert and subtle. They have great social skills and succeed in winning the sympathy of people they target. Though a lot of research has been done on the psyche of psychopaths, psychologists have failed to come up with any pattern that would fit them all. Psychopaths can be identified only by the extremity of a behavior they exhibit. Though they hide behind the mask and do not often show their indifference to human or animal life, there are times when they can be caught off guard. Being alert to the signs of psychopath can save a life, and it could well be yours. Here are the top 6 ways you can spot a psychopath.
Psychopaths often feel that the rules apply only for others and they are above it at least that is the way they respond to rules and regulations. They at times do bow down to rules for the fear of consequences but they shred it to pieces at the first chance they get. They live by the principle of pleasure, which means anything that pleases them is good for them. When caught breaking the rules, the psychopath is either remorseless, rationalizes his behavior or shows outright indifference to them.
Most of the psychopaths give hints to their parents about their destabilized mentality. Parents have the gut feeling that there is something amiss with their child, but often ignore their intuition and hold on to the a hope that their child is normal and everything will work out fine eventually. Psychopaths exhibit varying patterns of violent acts as minors. Often they talk about how they wish to carry out a certain violent plan regarding some person. Though all children who wet their beds even after age of 12 are not psychopaths, it is one of the signs of psychopaths. They take pleasure in playing with fire, and often torture and burn animals. They are often aggressive, show extreme interest in violence and can turn suicidal without any provocation. Parents can accept the fact that their child suffers from mental illness and seek proper intervention to save him/her and many others who may fall victims to them in future.
One of the basic characteristics of psychopaths is that they lie pathologically almost about everything from their past, present and future. All of their stories are accompanied by grandiose, exaggerated and never consistent. After making a commitment, they may often forget to turn up and accuse the other person of lying about the arrangement without even flinching a bit. Everybody lies occasionally, but it is the extremity of the lies that often catches the psychopath off guard.
Psychopaths, especially men tend to be sexually promiscuous and end up having sex with multiple partners. More than an intimate relationship, they consider sex as a challenge. Their ego gets a huge boost by sexually satisfying their partners and often they confirm it with their partners. They show no interest in emotional closeness or intimacy they feel with their sexual partners.
Psychopaths cannot accept their mistakes and say “Sorry”, unless they have planned it ahead of time with an ulterior motive. Often they get terribly angry and become violent when someone points out their mistake or say they are wrong. Even when cornered, they come up with excuses one after another instead of admitting to his/her mistakes. Once they have settled down in a relationship and established good hold of their partners, they show their real self and fly into rage and may physically abuse the accuser.
Psychopaths tend to be blatantly charming people, with smooth talks and great show of positive emotions like empathy, sympathy and understanding. People who are used the rude ways of normal people often find the psychopaths to be the prince (princess) charming of their dreams. The charisma exhibited by the psychopaths is often so perfect because they are feigning it through thorough practice, because they do not have any positive feelings of their own. They often operate the emotions as though they have a switch for it. Know that genuine feelings and emotions of people are never perfect. Always trust people who are natural, self doubting, cannot meet your emotional or physical demands and are not perfectly courteous, especially at the beginning of a relationship.