Bullying is an ugly behavior which is common among people of all ages. A timely response can stop bullies from giving you sleepless nights. This behavior takes its birth in childhood, which is the right time to nip it in the bud. If the parents and teachers make it clear that bullying is not acceptable, it will stop the behavior in its track. Unfortunately, if you are facing bullying from someone who was not stopped on time, then here are the six best ways to respond.
6. Do not indulge in self blame:
It is not your fault that you are being bullied. The bullies may make you feel that you invited their behavior with something you have done, or the way you are. Do not believe them. How they respond to you or anyone else for that matter is utterly their own responsibility. They choose the path of being bullies and it is their fault. Never allow them to make you believe otherwise. Though a bully appears to be brave and strong, in reality they are much weaker than you.
5. Do not give in to anger or tears:
Your anger and tears are providing fuel to the bullies, and they get a feeling of mission accomplished through such a response. This is easier said than done as bullies love to touch and evoke your strongest emotions. But responding with anger or tears will show the bully that he/she has got to you. It is possible that you will need an outlet for your emotions that has been troubled by the bullying behavior. Find a way to release that negative emotion in a positive way rather than feeding the bully with outburst in their presence.
4. Be strong and assertive:
Do not try to avoid looking the bully in the eye, because this shows them you are scared. Show your confidence in self by looking the bully straight in the eye and standing straight. Bullies will pick up your emotions through your body language. Once they sense an easy victim, they will pounce on you. They are not comfortable with people having as assertive body language and are afraid to look them in the eye. Take care not to provoke them though.
3. Try prevention strategies:
When you sense that you are about to be bullied, you can adopt certain prevention strategies to avoid being bullied. The best possible thing to do is to move away from the bully. Don’t allow the bully to feel that you are scared and running away. If the bully is not aggressive or violent, you can tell that you are feeling bullied and not liking it. Do not get into places where bullies often pick on people. Do not give in to your aggressive behavior and start a fight. Bullies are known to win fights and love it.
2. Use your sense of humor:
Taking bullying with a sense of humor can belittle the behavior, upsetting the bully; hence, you can use this as an effective weapon against the bully. Humor cannot be adopted; it should come from within you and match your personality. When you take bullying with a pinch of laughter, the sense of failure is seen in the bully, as it conveys a message that you are not troubled by what happened. You have to do your homework and find out the humorous tinge in the bullying. Also it will take a lot of patience and courage on your part.
1. Ask for help:
Depending on where the bullying is taking place, seek the person who can help you out with this situation. Parents or teachers can interfere in school bullying, whereas a senior colleague or superior person can help in workplace bullying. Make sure your approach is not going to backfire. Be sure the person you are approaching is efficient in handling the situation. Seek counseling help if the bullying is emotionally troubling you, so that you can find your inner strength to fight back.